Have you ever asked yourself, how we place value on items, experiences, relationships, and self? Are we making a qualitative or quantitative decision? Let’s dig a little deeper, we live in a commercial society filling our minds with the constant “need” to buy...buy brands to make our presence known, a pill to make our hair fuller, or a new makeup to enhance our features. We buy said items, but the feeling of, making a valuable purchase subsides and we are left looking for the next item to add to our chart.
What about relationships? How often do you find yourself investing large portions of yourself to have the investment not be reciprocated? How is your value being affected by said relationships? Do you experience yourself on a roller coaster of highs and lows? Highs when you are being seen, tended to and engaged with - Lows when the light is moved and you are left craving more of the contingent glow.
What if I was to tell you, you are the light director and have control of where you place the light, when you are seen and tended to? This is where Value comes into play. Value is self defined and nurtured; the moment you allow an external person, job, or commercial item affect your value- you have lost the power in your value.
Okay, so you just realized you’re the director, but have no idea how to navigate this new role. Well, let us start with things to be aware of :
If you are finding it difficult to answer these questions, I recommend you take a moment to sit and invest the time to getting to appreciate who you are as a whole. Understanding your value is what is going to save you from hurtful patterns (relational or internal) and help you achieve the life you aspire to attain.
Before buying the next “latest and greatest” consider the following:
4. Reflecting on where you feel stuck and critically thinking of a plan for progress
5. Perhaps Therapy
Remember to be gentle with yourself as you continue to progress to your whole self, you are more than enough and entirely worthy.
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